My name is Heather. And this is my infertility story.
I never in a million years would i have thought that I would struggle with infertility. This is by far one one the hardest things I’ve ever gone through. If you are going through this you are not alone.
I am 26 years old, I met my fiance in high school but it wasn’t until we both have graduated that we started dating. Right from the beging I knew that this was the man I wanted to spend my life with. He was everything I wanted, handsome, smart, hardworking ,and funny. On our one year anniversary he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him, without any hesitation I said yes! We were so happy, soon after we bought our first home and started talking about kids and our future. We decided that I should get off birth control, since I have been on it since I was 12 I figured it would take awhile for me to get pregnant, but when a year passed and I still wasn’t pregnant I started to worry. Was something wrong with me? We decided to make an appointment with my gyno. They did a routine exam and did blood work, they determined that I have PCOS witch is polycystic ovary syndrome which they explained made me not ovulate, They also suggested getting my fiance tested to make sure all his swimmers were okay, since he had cancer at age 10 and went through radiation it was a fear of ours that he may not have any. The test came back that he had a very low count. But since there was any at all it gave us hope. But with both of our fertility issues the doctor said our chances of conceiving on our own was very unlikely, he didn’t want to say impossible but he implied it.
We basically had two options if we wanted to have a baby with both of our DNA. And that was IUI or IVF. For those of you who dont know IUI stands for inter uterine insemination, which is basically the “turkey baster” method. And IVF is when they give me hormones that make me produce more eggs and then retrieve them using a needle and combine my fiance’s seman and my eggs and wait for them to form an embro and then put them directly into the uturus.
After thinking about what was best for us we decided to first try IUI, our doctor advised us to only try this once and not to waste to much time on the method.
I was schedule to do my IUI 3 times and each time the fertility doctor we were working with canceled for unknown reasons. We then got a letter in the mail saying our doctor retired and we were getting referred to another clinic. This was very frustrating .
When we finally got into the new clinic (it took 3 months to get an appointment) we basically had to start from the beging.
When they took my fiances seman analysis they told us he had NO sperm. Our hearts broke, how could this be? The other doctor told us he did. I demanded to get another test, and they set us up with a urologists.
3 months later, we got into the urologists who confirmed they my fiance indeed has a low count and low mobility, but has better days then others witch would explain why the last result was that he had 0. The urologists explained that IUI would not be a good option for us and if we wanted to have a baby together we should do IVF.
Now a year and a half later we are waiting to being our IVF journey.